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Why does an otherwise lovely party post have to have this body-hate shit?

Someone posted that she doesn't like how people pick on her for having small breasts. That sucks and she deserves our sympathy. But instead of just being supportive, more than half of the replies said something about how large breasts are bad. FAIL.

Facts:
- I can run and jump just fine, actually. It's called a sports bra.
- I have never had any back problems at all. Many people have back problems, and many people have large breasts; I think people are seeing a correlation that's not actually all that strong.
- Yes, it is hard for me to find clothes that fit my proportions because I'm not typical. Apparently I deserve this?
- Breasts don't have particularly a lot of sweat glands, certainly not compared with the hands, feet, groin and armpits. I don't even know where they got this one. OK, there are some concentrated around the nipples but we all have nipples. I can't help thinking there's some fat hate tangled up in here somewhere.
- I don't like to sleep on my stomach because it means keeping my head turned at a 90% angle so I can, y'know, breathe. I can, however, lie on my stomach without any difficulty, and in fact often do lie on my stomach when I'm doing yoga.

SO QUIT SNEERING ABOUT HOW IT'S GREAT NOT HAVING A BODY LIKE MINE, ASSHOLES.

ETA: Also this type of discrimination against women with large breasts and these accusations that we're inappropriate no matter what we wear are quite typical.

Finally a post where angry!Sylar icon is appropriate!

So Zach Quinto is tentatively attached to a "romantic dramedy" indie film and a shitload of fans are reacting like "LOL, I hope he seduces the son instead! I couldn't imagine him in a straight role! Because he's so incredibly gay!"
Like here:
http://community.livejournal.com/ontd_startrek/949249.html

If he is in fact gay, it's exactly this kind of shit that prevents him from being 100% out to the public. That is why gay actors have to "not talk about their personal lives," because straight assholes think gay actors can only play gay roles!

He has already been completely believable in two straight roles: Sylar and Spock! They're both straight! How could anyone not see that?

"I wouldn't find him believable in a straight role" isn't cute. It's not just because you're a slash fan. It's homophobic and it sucks. Do we think he's actually a superpowered serial killer IRL? And simultaneously an alien scientist? An actor doesn't have to have any traits in common with their character (OK, except physical appearance), that's the whole point!

It would be great if there were more movies where the main character is gay. But for the sake of his career, he needs to play a straight romantic lead - WHICH HE WOULDN'T HAVE TO DO IF EVERYONE WEREN'T REACTING THE WAY THEY ARE.

Someone cool in the ontd_startrek thread made the excellent point that straight actors are allowed to play gay roles, like Sean Penn and Heath Ledger. What it comes down to is straight people are seen as multifaceted, being straight is just one part of their whole identity. But society sees gay people as being defined by their orientation. They can't be anything else, they're just A Gay. That's why people think gay characters are inappropriate for children's books/movies, because knowing that a gay person exists makes people think about weird freaky sex, because in their minds that's all we're about. We're one-dimensional, we don't get to be seen as whole people.

And that is why I am pissed off today by well-meaning but clueless straight people.